I have come across several motivational books and quotes that enthusiastically advice you to let go of your past, and keep striving ahead. Never look back…
You know..,those kinds.
However, I have learned you should look back. Not to dwell on the mishaps or mistakes of the past however, but instead to regard introspectively the steps that led you up to those points in your life. So that you do not repeat those same processes, endeavors or associate with those certain kind of people again that brought you there.
Remembering is hard, especially a painful past. But when we take the time, despite the pain from our setback, we see clearly those things we should not have done. Sometimes these are things we knew would have repercussions but we were so engrossed to fully acknowledge it. Other times, we never knew such endeavors would have consequences. Realizing these mistakes as much as they are painful, is somewhat cathartic, as it is a step into solving the problem of actually healing.
You feel relieved for knowing where you went wrong, although some may not feel the relief immediately. Nevertheless, It always comes.
In essence, you face the risk of reliving history in a different context when you heedlessly carry your unlearned lessons with you into the future. And why so? All Because you can’t really move forward without learning from the past.
And that almost always happens – when you don’t learn.
“But however we remember it––or choose to remember it––the past is the foundation that holds our lives in place. Without its support, we’d have nothing for guidance. We spend so much time focused on what lies ahead, when what has fallen behind is just as important. What defines us isn’t where we’re going, but where we’ve been. Although there are places and people we will never see again, and although we move on and let them go, they remain a part of who we are.
There are things that will never change, things we will carry along with us always. But as we venture into the murky future, we must find our strength by learning to leave things behind.” ― Brigid Gorry-Hines
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